With the holidays slowly approaching, I’m reminded of a romantic comedy movie titled “Meet the Parents.” This 2000 film is a remake of the 1992 original with the same title. For those of you that have not seen the movie, the 30 thousand ft. view went something like this: The man of the relationship decides that the time has come to get serious with his girlfriend. With the proposal set in his mind, he decides that the ideal way to propose is during the weekend trip to her parents’ house in support of her sister’s outdoor wedding event. Instead, the weekend turns into an onslaught of nightmares due to misunderstanding and miscommunications between the couple and her parents resulting in the man being shunned out by his girlfriend and her family. At some point in the revised 2006 movie, the couple makes up and her parents decides that it’s time to meet the man’s parents. While this movie creates extremely outrageous examples, it does beg the question, is meeting your partner’s parents still a “thing” today. Does it matter to you or your partner based on your culture? Are the ways of the old traditions of asking the parent’s permission to allow you the opportunity to grow with your partner still relevant? If you’re already serious in your relationship, and have not thought about this yet, it may be a good time to understand each other’s view about what meeting the parents may mean for each of you. Knowing this ahead of time, is a good way to ensure that if and when that time comes, you’re ready.
Is meeting the parents just a thing of the past?